Christian’s
mother took a heartwarming photo of the two, hand in hand, walking into
school. Connor’s mother responded: “It doesn’t matter color. It doesn’t
matter gender. It doesn’t matter disability, and it doesn’t matter
anything—just be kind, open your heart . . . it’s what we need in this
world.”
She added: “One act of kindness can change someone’s life, can change the world. That’s all it takes.”
Saying to people what we say about them
Among
all people, Christians should be most known for such compassion. Jesus’
example of empathetic love (cf. Matthew 14:14; 15:32) was imitated by
those who touched a crippled man with healing grace (Acts 3:1–10), gave
sacrificially to meet the needs of others (Acts 4:34), and cared for
“orphans and widows in their affliction” (James 1:27).
And
yet, our positions on divisive moral issues such as abortion and
same-gender sexual relations have been castigated as just the opposite.
Pro-life advocates are seen as waging a “war on women”; those of us who
support biblical marriage are described as homophobic and hateful.
Tragically,
some of this is the fault of some who claim our positions. Those who
bomb abortion clinics or murder abortionists are criminals, not genuine
representatives of Jesus. Those who picket funerals while carrying signs
slandering LGBTQ people are hateful enemies of the true spirit of
Christianity.
However, we don’t have to be this extreme to make things worse. When we say about people what we would not say to them, we misrepresent Jesus. When we reject a person based on their sexuality, we denigrate someone for whom Jesus died.
Every
time the Bible addresses same-gender sexual relations, it forbids them
(cf. Leviticus 18:22; 20:13; Romans 1:26–27; 1 Corinthians 6:9–10; 1
Timothy 1:8–11). For much more, see my article, “What does the Bible say about homosexuality?”
The
universal position of the Christian church across twenty centuries has
been that same-gender sexual relations are outside God’s will for us.
This is not a recent development, a “homophobic” slander, or a
right-wing political agenda. I believe that homosexual relations are
wrong because the Bible says they are wrong. Those who disagree with me
are actually disagreeing with the word of God.
Two: Understand their position.
Many
who endorse same-gender sexual relationships are unpersuaded by
Scripture, of course. They view the Bible as we view the Qur’an—a holy
book to some but not required truth for all.
Others
believe we are misinterpreting God’s word on this subject, though it is
their position that contradicts two thousand years of Christian
orthodoxy. For more, see my “How to Defend Biblical Marriage (PDF).”
In
addition, many view homosexual relationships as the civil rights issue
of our day. To them, I am as prejudiced in refusing to marry a same-sex
couple as if I refused to marry an African-American couple. Equating gay rights with civil rights is erroneous on many levels, but this is nonetheless the position many take who oppose biblical teaching on this issue.
Three: Find common ground.
John
4 tells of a remarkable encounter between Jesus and a Samaritan woman
who was living in clear violation of biblical sexual morality. Rather
than focusing on their differences, our Lord began their conversation
with what they had in common: the need for water (v. 7). He then led her
to seek the “living water” only he can provide (vv. 13–15).
In
building a relationship with someone who endorses same-gender sexual
relationships, I can likewise start with beliefs we share in common.
Like this person, I strongly believe that LGBTQ people deserve to be
treated with respect. I also know that same-gender sexual relations are
not the unpardonable sin and believe that God loves such persons as much
as he loves me. I want only what is best for them, which is why I seek
to share God’s word and will with them.
Four: Stay committed and humble.
Convincing
others that we love those with whom we disagree is so countercultural
that we should expect skepticism and worse. We will likely need to
invest much time in such relationships as we prove our compassion by our
actions.
Commenting on the father’s love in Jesus’ Parable of the Prodigal Son,
Craig Denison writes: “May we commit scandals of grace that the lost
cannot comprehend and the world cannot explain. May the love of our
heavenly Father shine through us as we run out to meet the weak and
sinful at their point of need and offer them mercy and compassion.”
Such
compassion requires genuine humility that admits we cannot convict
anyone of sin or change anyone’s heart. Since this is the work of the
Spirit alone (John 16:8–11), it is vital that we pray for those we
serve, asking God to do what we cannot.
It
is likewise vital that we pray and work with the humility that
recognizes our need of grace as well. We are all broken sexually.
Heterosexual sin is just as sinful as homosexual sin. Each of us needs
what all of us need: the transforming forgiveness of our Father.
“The arch has never yielded”
Charles
Spurgeon: “The bridge of grace will bear your weight, brother.
Thousands of big sinners have gone across that bridge, yea, tens of
thousands have gone over it. Some have been the chief of sinners and
some have come at the very last of their days but the arch has never
yielded beneath their weight. I will go with them trusting to the same
support. It will bear me over as it has for them.”
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